Having lived or worked in Japan/Korea, both as a married person and "temporary bachelor", I can relate to this state of fug.
But, clinically, the 'correct' response is actually a wrong response caused by chemicals that impaired judgement.
What Jack really meant to say from his amygdala, had he not been inssh-kep-pear-shi-tated at the speeech centre.....was..........
MTF