... you really sound like my wife (LOL) ... she want's a Aston Martin, i want a Ferrari .... eventually my wife will make the decision (luckily i like Astons too).
but as they say over here: You can not discuss taste....
But you have a point there saying the Ferrari is too flashy, a lot of people are really staring at you like you're coming from another planet. If you feel uncomfortable by that don't buy the red stallion because you will regret it.
Cheers, have fun
Filip